The Trust Factor
A daily lesson that focuses on achieving unparalleled success in life using ancient wisdom in modern times.
We will be discussing critical concepts as they are laid out in the book Sha'ar Habitachon - The Gate of Trust. Written 1000 years ago, the author reminds us of the values and wisdom that have allowed humanity to thrive throughout history.
The concept of trusting in a higher power that exists purely for our benefit, puts us in the drivers seat with absolute confidence to achieve greatness.
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* Note that some terminology will be in the original Hebrew or Aramaic which I will always follow with the English translation.
The Trust Factor
Episode 68 - Let Go of Your Kung Fu Grip on Life
Have you ever considered that your tight grip on life might be the very thing holding you back? That's the transformative paradox at the heart of this episode.
The divine exchange we explore is deceptively simple yet profoundly powerful: You do His will, and He does yours. When you focus on becoming your best self, serving your community, and nurturing meaningful relationships, God handles the obstacles that would otherwise consume your energy and attention. This relationship operates in perfect correlation—the more you align with divine will, the more your path is cleared of impediments. Conversely, when you insist on managing everything yourself, you unknowingly invite more complications into your life.
We dive deep into what it means to "nullify your will" before His. This isn't about abandoning your agency or becoming a passive bystander in your own life. Rather, it's about releasing what I call the "Kung Fu grip on life"—the persistent illusion that you control outcomes. The truth? We control almost nothing. Your possessions, relationships, and circumstances often operate beyond your supervision, regardless of how tightly you try to manage them.
Perhaps most revolutionary is the concept that happiness trumps rightness. In our culture of constant debate and positional entrenchment, choosing contentment over correctness feels almost rebellious. Yet 98% of what we argue about is ultimately inconsequential. The beautiful promise embedded in this wisdom: when you become someone who can gracefully let go, God "nullifies the will of others in the face of your will." Paradoxically, by releasing your desperate grip on outcomes, you often receive exactly what you wanted all along.
Ready to transform your approach to life's challenges? Start by loosening your grip and watching how often things naturally align with your deeper desires. Subscribe to The Trust Factor for more wisdom that guarantees success when implemented fully.
Deal or no deal. My friends, we're continuing the discussion today. It's a fascinating one. Welcome to the Trust Factor. This is the only podcast that will guarantee your success when you implement all of its teachings.
Speaker 0:My friends, we've been talking about a spectacular, spectacular concept. It's a game changer. This one is one that will carry you throughout your entire existence. It's what, single-handedly, can take your life from zero to a hundred in seconds Easily. It is the number one contributor to you being able to grow and succeed and thrive, and not just survive, not just get through this life, not just barely dealing with the difficulties or just keeping your head above water.
Speaker 0:This is the game changer. You do his will and he does yours. Where else are you going to find an offer like that, my friend? The answer is you're not going to find it anywhere, certainly not with somebody who is capable of providing and taking care of all of your affairs to the perfect extent, to the exact degree at which they need to be cared for, because that's what he can do. You occupy your time in your mind with the things that he wants you to do, which are spectacular for you and for your environment and your community and your family members and your friends, you become the best version of you and in his joy of watching you doing the amazing things that you need to do for yourself and for your community and for the world, in return, he's going to take care of all of the obstacles that are in your way that would otherwise make your life very difficult and distract you from doing those things. Guys, that deal is spectacular. Don't stop, don't think about it. If you're doing it now, here's the deal. If you're already doing this, if you said, god, I'm going to do your will, you do mine, then great. There's always room for improvement. Figure out where in your life you're lacking a little bit. We all are okay At certain times in our lives. Maybe we're a little bit more on our game than in other times, and sometimes we all have mitzvahs and challenges that we know are difficult for us. We do them, or we don't do them properly, or we don't do them at all. It's time to up the game, because it's a perfect relationship. It is directly and positively correlated. The more you do his will, the more he will do yours, and the opposite is true the more you are determined to do your will in this world in other words, occupy yourself with the day-to-day and the mundane and try and fix all your problems and try and find all the solutions. The more he allows you to do that, he withdraws himself, guys, and he says, okay, you got this. If you got this, you don't need me. You don't need me.
Speaker 0:You know the joke, everybody's heard the joke. The guy's driving through downtown New York, manhattan, whatever it is. He's trying to find a parking spot for a meeting that he's extremely late to. It's a job interview, and if he misses it, he's done, he's toast. And he finally gets to his breaking point and he screams out to God, god, I really need a parking spot. Please you find me a parking spot, then I'll start keeping Shabbat, I'll start keeping the Sabbath. And as soon as he finished doesn't even finish saying that a car pulls out from in front of him and he looks back to the heavens and he says, nevermind, I found one, it's fine. Same idea, guys.
Speaker 0:It's a joke, but it's true. The more you bring him into your life, the more he will be there. The more you think you got this, the more he'll allow you to believe that you've got this. And then you have to deal with the challenges, and the challenges pile on and they get more and more difficult. My friends, the longer you're around and the more you increase your involvement in affairs and business, and homes and real estate and investments and stock portfolios and whatever it is, it doesn't end. Things just get more and more complicated, they occupy more and more real estate in your head and it distracts you from doing the important things and investing in your time and your relationships, your friends and your community and your family. Who wouldn't want to have the best of both worlds? You have the best of this world, where you're occupying yourself with the amazing things that you can do in this world and he's taking care of all the things for you that you would otherwise have to take care of, and, to boot, you're building your next world.
Speaker 0:Now I want to focus a little bit more on the second statement, the one that comes after this, because this is another spectacular life lesson. It says nullify your will in the face of his will, so that he will nullify the will of others in the face of your will. This is another spectacular concept that really piggybacks on the one that we just talked about, but it's really also quite different. Nullify your will means, guys, let go of your Kung Fu grip on life. Let go of your constant demand for control, the constant dilution that you think you're in control of things. I have news for you, in case you haven't figured it out already you control almost nothing, almost nothing.
Speaker 0:Just think about all of the people and the affairs and the assets that you have in this world. You're not sitting on top of them right now. You don't know where everyone is, you don't know what everything's doing. All the time, every time, things are happening and they happen without your knowledge or consent. They're just going to happen. Life moves on, with or without you. My friends, your constant desire for control and certain outcomes that they should be your way is pounding you into the ground.
Speaker 0:That is one of the biggest causes of stressors in this world, if not the biggest, I'm going to claim it's the biggest. Why? What's the thing that drives people the most, that I should say that terrifies people the most? What's the thing that people are most scared of? Death and dying. Death and dying, not necessarily the actual act of death and dying, but more controlling. Controlling If I'm going to die, when I'm going to die. Yeah, you heard me say if A lot of people still live a delusion where they think that we're here permanently.
Speaker 0:They forget that this is a temporary existence. When you remind yourself on a daily basis that this is a temporary existence, that you're not guaranteed today or tomorrow, you're not, nobody's guaranteed 80, 90, 100, 120 years, nobody's guaranteed it when you understand that, then this concept of holding on to control and letting that be a driving force in your life becomes ridiculous. You start to realize this concept of happiness. It is much more important for you to be happy than it should be for you to be right. The problem is, today we're living in a world where everybody needs to be right all the time. Remember, there's all these influencers that are telling you how it is and what it's like. You want to listen to me and you'll win all right. There's so many influencers out there trying to convince you that they have the holy grail, that they've got the secrets to success, and every single one of them, as long as they're operating in the secular realm, whether they know it or not, they're steering you, they're guiding you in the wrong direction.
Speaker 0:We've established well established, throughout this podcast, my friends, that there is only one provider who cares about you infinitely and knows the difference between right and wrong. It's he who created the concepts of right and wrong. My friends, that's what we're talking about. That's what this podcast is dedicated to. So, getting back to this concept, in Hebrew it's called being a vatran, being a mevater, somebody who just releases their Kung Fu grip on life, somebody who doesn't always have to be right. It's more important for me to be happy than it is to be right.
Speaker 0:There are so many people in this world who argue just for the sake of argument. A lot of people just want to fill dead air. God forbid, there should be awkward silence, so they'll fight about anything. They'll argue about anything just to get people riled up, because, god forbid, they should be alone with their thoughts for five minutes. Guys, that is very, very unhealthy. You want to live a healthy life.
Speaker 0:God says over here nullify your will. Okay, I'm not telling you to be a blanket over here. I'm not telling you to be a rug that somebody can walk all over you, that you don't have an opinion, that you shouldn't get your way. That's not what I'm talking about. But what I'm telling you is what you already know but you sometimes forget. You know that 98% of the things that you deal with in this world are inconsequential. They are inconsequential to your achievement, to your success, to your life and your happiness, and if somebody wants to make them consequential, then let them have it. If somebody wants to lose sleep over ridiculousness, let them lose sleep over it. 98% of the things in this world are what we call minutiae. Minutiae is just noise. They're just distractions to take you away from doing the right thing, which is all the things that we have been discussing. My friends, don't fall into that trap.
Speaker 0:And the beautiful part here, the most spectacular part of all this, is he says that if you are a veteran, if you're the person who lets go, does not dig your heels in, doesn't always have to be right, then he the back part of this verse will nullify the will of others in the face of your will. You hear this, guys. You win, you win. That's the sweetest part of this is that when you recognize that just by letting go, ultimately you will get your way. Nine times out of ten I've seen it many, many times.
Speaker 0:I think okay, if I want my, want my way, I need to step up and battle over here. I need to go and advocate for things to go my way and then, when I recognize that it's not worth it, I pull back and I say Hashem, you got this. You know what's good, you know the outcomes. I'm not in charge of outcomes. I've said my two cents. I've said my part. Again, you don't have to be a rug. You can give your opinion, but that's it. Move on after that. My friend, stop digging your heels in that if it doesn't work out your way, it's not going to be good. That's how you lose in this life, because when it doesn't go your way, you end up upset, you end up miserable. But the best thing is when you don't end up upset, when you accept outcomes and you recognize where it comes from. Nine times out of 10, the outcome is exactly what you wanted in the first place. Have a spectacular day, my friends.
