Episode 66 - Stop Blaming Coincidence; Your Karma Has A Spreadsheet

What if the toughest moments aren’t random knocks but crystal-clear messages, custom-made to help you grow? We dig into the idea of measure for measure—a framework that turns confusion into clarity by matching outcomes to their roots. Starting with Shabbat as the week’s power source, we explore how intention on the seventh day sets the tone, energy, and focus for everything that follows.

From there, we move into the real stakes: practical examples that make this principle impossible to ignore. A spouse’s sharp words can mirror our own neglect of higher commitments. Disrespect from kids can reflect our treatment of our parents. Gossip shows up not only in fractured trust but, at times, in the body itself. Money choices echo through fines, flat tires, and missed chances. And the good returns too—pay fairly and watch integrity rise, care for someone’s children and see care circle back to yours. The symmetry isn’t punishment; it’s education. When we see it, we can change it.

We also talk about tuning the inner radio. Static—anger, anxiety, envy—drowns out the hint inside each trial. Learn how to quiet the noise, ask the right questions, and trace a clean line from event to cause. Joseph’s story sharpens the lesson with three vivid mirrors: accusations, slavery, and scandal reflecting earlier words and judgments. Whether you frame it as providence or disciplined living, the takeaway is the same—what you send out returns in kind, often with perfect precision.

If you’re ready to swap “why me?” for “what is this teaching me?” this conversation offers a roadmap. Save the episode, share it with someone who needs clarity, and subscribe for more grounded, growth-centred takes. After you listen, tell us the one pattern you’re ready to flip—we’re listening.

Transcript

Shabbat As Weekly Power Source

From Theory To Practical Self-Assessment

Measure For Measure Explained

Reading Life’s Hints And Timing

Everyday Examples Of Reciprocity

Positive Mirrors And Rewards

Tune Out Static To Hear Signals

Joseph’s Story As Proof

Embrace Signals And Act With Purpose

Closing And Community Call

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Welcome to the Trust Factor Podcast, the only podcast that guarantees your success when you implement its divine age old teachings. Good morning, everybody. Happy Sunday. Welcome to the Trust Factor Podcast. It's episode 66. So glad you could join us. We're going to take all of the growth and all the energy and even the rest that we got on Shabbat and we're going to carry it throughout the rest of our week. Every single day is affected, is impacted, is actually energized from the Shabbat. Every day of the week is either a step away from Shabbat or a step towards Shabbat. But it all centers around Shabbat because that is the source of all of our blessings. We know that. Let's get into the book. There's still a lot to cover off, my friends. We're going to get really practical. We're going to talk about real life examples of how we understand what we're doing wrong. Because remember, if a parent loves a child and a parent wants that child to succeed, which we all do, then the parent is not going to throw all these different challenges at the child and make their life difficult for absolutely no reason, number one. But number two, he's going to allow that child to understand what the reason is, what they're doing wrong, so that they can correct it. Understand that that's the same way our relationship works with our creator. Everything that happens to us in this life, and I mean absolutely everything, stems from something that we have done in the past. The good and the seemingly bad. It's only seemingly bad because we think we're being punished, but we're not. We're given the opportunity to correct. And so we're about to get into, and the book's going to give us some real life examples about how it is that God gives us, he chooses, handcrafts, hand designs, custom made, made to measure, tribulations for each and every one of us, because he knows what we don't. So this part is called a turn for a turn. That's also known as what I've used before, measure for measure. In the secular world, you understand this principle as what goes around comes around. I did, therefore it's coming back to me. That works when you've done something to hurt somebody. In the way that you've hurt them, it comes back to hurt you. And in the way that you've done positive for somebody else, anybody in this world, it comes back to you. They call it a turn for a turn. God frequently employs this policy that we just talked about, a turn for a turn, in order to teach a person why he or she is suffering, just like a loving parent should. He sends a person a certain type of tribulation. That clearly indicates what that person has done wrong. It's not random. It's very much connected to something that you have done. You may not know what it is because it may not have been five minutes ago. It may have been something that you did a week ago, yesterday, two months ago, twenty years ago, two lives ago. You have no idea what you're making up for right now or what you're being rewarded for today, but know very clearly that there is nothing random about it. And it's about to get into some examples of what these tribulations or quote unquote hints from our creator are and how to interpret them. Example, a person's wife suddenly shows uncharacteristic disrespect towards him. Why? He can be sure that he himself has shown disrespect to his creator. Why is that the creator? Why does that mean that if my wife is being negative towards me or disrespectful towards me, that I've done the same to my creator, why not somebody else? Because we've seen many chapters and verses, we've seen many connections drawn between the relationship between us and our spouses, to that between us and our creator. Oftentimes we are mentioned in the Torah as marrying our creator, being in a matrimonial type relationship. In addition to that, our spouses are also supposed to be what's called an Ezer Kenegdo. When God created Eve, he said it wasn't good for man to be on his own. Not a good thing at all. And therefore, ezer kenegdo, I will make for him an assistant who opposes him. What kind of an assistant opposes you? If they're your assistant, then they should be behind you. They should be the ones who elevate you and push you up. And the answer is it's true. How do you elevate somebody? How do you lift somebody up? How do you make them better? By challenging them, by showing them what they've done wrong and showing them exposing their weaknesses and then assisting them to be able to grow, to change, to make progress. But first, you need to identify the problem, and oftentimes it's that very same spouse who comes and shows you. When your spouse is coming back at you, oftentimes it's a mirror reflection. It's really just what you've done in your relationship with your creator, which really means how you conduct yourself on the whole. When his children are disrespectful to him, this should be easy. He has probably been disrespectful to his own parents. Similar concept. A person with sores in his mouth can understand what? That he has spoken unwholesomely about someone. He uses the evil tongue. We talked about that, gossip. Suddenly you get sores in your mouth. You think it's a coincidence? It's not. It can't be a coincidence. That's how it works. If you're somebody who often finds yourself talking about other people, you will also find oftentimes that you suffer with mouth sores. A cab driver willingly takes advantage and overcharges the tourist. Only two days later he suffered two flat tires and a speeding ticket, causing him to lose exactly 10 times the amount of money he made by cheating that tourist. It doesn't have to be two days later. It can be two lifetimes later. You understand? We don't know, but our creator does. An employer that unjustly accuses an employee of stealing was soon after accused by the tax authorities of cheating on his income tax. The way that you put yourself in this world, he will respond to you. It's very, very simple. It's tried, it's tested, and it's true. I can attest to it. The way that you approach others in this life, they will approach you. The way you approach tests will determine the outcome of those tests. I do it every single day. Try it and you will see. It makes life easier and it makes your choice easier to live life that way when you know that it's being run by your creator, when you know that everything is done for you and is perfect and is done with love, then it's easier to make these choices. But it gets cemented when you actually do it, when you actually behave in a way that is uncharacteristic of you, in an attempt to be able to get closer to your creator, and you see his reciprocation. You see how he comes back and he does exactly what you wanted him to do because you put it out first. You opened up that pinhole, and then he responded in a way that you will not be able to miss, but it has to start with you. God's policy of a turn for a turn is certainly not punishment. It's a divine method of education. It's a loving parent saying to you, here's the area of your life that is not working out and you need to change it. More than that, I said in the beginning, it's also an indication of the things that you're doing right. If your employees are taking the initiative to be able to make sure that they're always paid accurately and nobody's punching in and punching out before or after they should, and they're taking those steps on their own, then you should know that it's a reflection of the fact that you're dealing honestly with your employees. You understand? When you don't get cold sores or all kinds of different sores in your mouth, it's because you're not speaking badly of other people. When you take care of God's children, he takes care of your children. Where you're worried about other people making a living, he makes sure to worry about your living. That's how it works. When you're good with your parents, your kids are good with you. It's measure for measure. It's not only on the negative or the seemingly negative side, it's not only for reparations and consequences, it's also for reward. You've done good in area A, therefore, you're going to be rewarded in area A. It doesn't make sense to reward somebody for something completely unrelated. Very difficult. Number one, and the biggest reason why he wouldn't do that is because we wouldn't then have eyes to make those connections. Now, there's a caveat here. You have to be dialed in. That's number one. If you're not on the right channel, you're not receiving the messages. The tribulations are happening to you, but you're not interpreting them properly. Because you're so wrapped up in the static that is sadness and anger and depression and anxiety. That is all the static. You know, when you're turning the knob on the radio and you get to the snow, I don't know if this generation even knows how to deal with that or what that even is. But not that long ago, when I needed to change the station on my radio, I'd have a knob to turn. And if I didn't land on a radio station that came in clear with strong reception, it was static y at best. At worst, it was complete snow. You couldn't make anything out. There was nothing happening there. The point being that you need to be dialed in. And the more you are on a channel that is coming in at a high frequency, crystal clear, in a high definition, high fidelity, as they used to call it, the better the message comes through. The clearer it is, and the easier it is for us to see. Because when you see it, then you can assess. Wait a second. Now I know. And if you didn't know this five minutes ago, you know it now. If God is giving me a hard time with my children, they're disrespecting me, then I need to look back at my relationship with my parents. I'm not doing good enough. It's the key, guys. You don't have to scratch your head. You don't have to wonder why me. The answer is in the circumstance. Look at the premise. Look at what situation you're dealing with. If you're dealing with people who are cheating you financially, stop cheating people financially. There's no coincidence, and stop feeling sorry for yourself and don't make excuses for yourself. You're just as guilty. And if you fix yourself first, then everybody else automatically fixes themselves. Remember, they are sticks in the hands of a creator, my friends. One final example, and we'll leave it with this. Again, a beautiful story. My son's Bar Mitzvah Parsha, that's why I love it so much, also. The story of Joseph. We've talked about it multiple times. Three wonderful examples that show you exactly what we're talking about over here. And if you know the story, these ones will come easy to you. If you don't, learn the story again. It's such a beautiful, beautiful story. Joseph, especially in his younger days, was oblivious. He didn't really put two and two together well. He didn't have a filter. What he was thinking came out because he thought they were pure, and it was done with good intention, and therefore he should just blurt out the things that were on his mind, not realizing that they were upsetting his family members, including his brothers, who had a really hard time with him. Three examples. Joseph said to his father that his brothers are eating the meat of a live animal, which is a big sin. We know that we're not allowed to eat the limb off of a living animal, rip it off and eat it like a barbarian for obvious reasons. In turn, the brothers did what? They took his cloak and they dipped it in the blood of a slaughtered goat to show to the father that your son was torn apart by a wild animal. Measure for measure. Number two, Joseph said that the sons of Leah, meaning his brothers that came from a different mother, were calling their half brothers, the son of Bilhan Zilpa, slaves. And in turn, he was sold into slavery. He claimed that they were talking badly about their brothers. He claimed that they were referring to them as slaves. He gets sold into slavery, measure for measure. Finally, Joseph said that his brothers were suspicious of illicit sexual acts. And in turn, he himself was accused by none other than Potifar's wife, the wife of an Egyptian minister that he was sold to. And because of that, he goes into a dungeon underground. You understand? There's no coincidences in this world. The faster we come to grips with that, the faster we understand that to be the truth, the easier our life becomes because then we take those quote unquote coincidences and we understand that there is a message in them, a custom crafted message for us to be able to utilize to turn our lives around, to right the wrong, to make things good again. And after that's done, it's smooth sailing, my friends. But first you got to fix so that you can enter into the life of beauty and eternity. That's the world to come. But at the same time, you're also making this life so much better, not just for you, but everybody around you who is not around you by coincidence. There is a really good reason that you were put in this lifetime surrounded by the very same people that you are. Have an amazing week, my friends. We'll chat again tomorrow. Thank you for spending time with us on the Trust Factor Podcast. If you've heard something today that moved you, save this episode and share it with someone who might need to hear it. Be sure to subscribe so you don't miss upcoming conversations that challenge, empower, and uplift. And if you're on social media, connect with us. Leave your thoughts, drop a quote that resonated with you. Hashtag the TrustFactor Podcast. Until next time, keep growing in your trust and keep living with purpose. I'm Jesse Revivo, and this has been the Trust Factor Podcast. Thanks for listening.