Episode 70 - What Changes When You Accept Trouble With Love

A whole operation can grind to a halt because of a three-inch part, and if you’ve ever had a day like that, you know how quickly your mind goes from problem-solving to panic. I’m pulling a lesson straight out of real life: the moment you realise you don’t control outcomes, you only control your effort. That single shift can change how you handle stress, conflict, and the pressure of a world that feels like it never slows down.

We talk about why the current pace of events leaves even strong people worn down, and how trust in God transforms what “security” really means. Using practical Jewish spirituality, we unpack Emunah (faith) and Bitachon (earned trust), and why worry starts to sound irrational when you truly believe the Creator is precise, present, and personal. I also share how I should have responded to my own tribulation: stop immediately, breathe, clear the noise, and return with a calm mind and a short prayer instead of burning time, money, and patience.

Not every hardship comes with a clear explanation, so we go there too. When you can’t find the message, I share a simple, heartfelt prayer you can adapt in your own words, plus the deeper practice of accepting difficulty with love without becoming passive or “switched off.” If you want spiritual growth, emotional resilience, and a grounded approach to anxiety and control, this conversation will give you language and a path.

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Transcript

Welcome And Why We Share

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Welcome to the Trust Factor Podcast, the only podcast that guarantees your success when you implement its divine age old teachings. Good morning, everybody. Thank you for tuning in. Another episode of the Trust Factor Podcast. I hope you're enjoying as much as I'm enjoying giving them over. I really am. I'm getting amazing feedback from so many people after each episode airs. Everybody hears things a little bit differently, and everybody benefits from it in a different way. If you're benefiting from it, reach out. There's no downside because I need all the inspiration I can get. I'm only human, my friends. And oftentimes my evil inclination gets the best of me. But I'll tell you, there are plenty of listeners who reach out and confirm that what we're doing here is beneficial. People are benefiting directly from it. And it doesn't take many. I'm not doing this for the masses. I'm not doing this to become a celebrity. I'm doing this if it even helps one individual to straighten out their lives or to give them strength or to give them clarity of purpose. That's why I'm doing this, my friends. I'm enjoying it. I hope you are also. If you are, comment, like, share. That's telling me a lot. And it also helps other people sign up to be able to get this good information because God knows we need it now more than ever before in history. It seems like we are at the pinnacle, at the peak of craziness in the world. And I don't know because I've only lived one lifetime that I can remember. I don't remember previous existences. So I can't tell you about what it was like back then. I'm sure there were times in history that were very challenging and trying on humanity, there's no question. I just think the volume, the sheer quantity of events that are happening, not only at the same time, but subsequent, one after another. It almost seems like there's no break. And so that's trying. It takes a toll on humanity. I don't care how tough you are, I don't care how well you've got your head screwed on. We're human. We're made of flesh and blood. And there's only so much pressure and stress that we can deal with. And the beautiful thing is that there is no reason to even deal with a minimal amount of stress. If you have a Shem on your side, if you have your creator at your back, there's literally no reason to suffer. None. It's like the analogy is Elon Musk is my father, and I'm worried that I'm not going to be able to pay my$5,000 visa bill. Do you understand? That's how silly it is. That my father is the richest man on planet earth. If he has anything, he has money coming out of his ears, nothing what to do with the money. He doesn't know where to put it anymore. He's making so much of it. And I'm worried that my$5,000 visa bill is not going to get paid. Do you understand how ridiculous it sounds? That's the same thing. When the more you bring Hashem into your life, the more you recognize all of his power, all of his abilities, all of what he's done for you for the last 20, 40, 60, 80 years, the more it cements for you that you are lacking nothing and that everything you need will come in its proper time. It's very calculated, it's precise, he knows precision, he knows exactly when the right time is and what the right amount is, and he controls all that in his love for us. So what do I have to be worried about? I haven't missed a meal in 50 plus years. I'm gonna miss a meal today. It's not gonna happen. Remember, nobody can touch you, nobody can harm you, nobody can do a thing, not a hair on your head can be harmed if he doesn't sign off on it. And if he's signing off on it, then you know that it is good. Let's get back. Let's just finish off my story from the other day. I shared with you that challenge that I had. It was a rough day a couple days ago. Rough in that I had to run around doing all these things and learn a lesson. But that's okay, because that's exactly what I needed to do. But rough also in the sense that I wasn't able to put my feet up and relax. Who says this is the place for it? I'm not supposed to put my feet up and relax. If God wanted to create a world where we can come and have a picnic all day long, he would put us in the Garden of Eden. Not here, not in this world, the world of action. This is a world where we have to put our feet down, touch the ground, and put one foot in front of the other and get things done. And so in that story, I just wanted to bring back, I mentioned to you that I saw the insight of why I had to deal with that challenge specifically. But I want to drive home a point. There is more than one reason, and there is more than one message inside of a tribulation. And our job is to identify those messages. So in my mind, yesterday, after I gave over the podcast, I reflected a little bit and I understood that there were additional messages, and those messages primarily are that I don't control anything. Remember, Jesse, as much as you think you control this life, you control outcomes, you control when your plant is going to operate, how it's going to operate, what you're going to produce, how much you're going to produce, what's going to be waste, how much you're going to get paid, when you're going to get paid, if you're going to get paid, you control nothing. A small, tiny little part, a fitting, three inches long, is enough to shut down your entire plant. And you may think that this is such a common part that every corner hardware store is going to have ample supply. I'm going to make sure they don't have any. The biggest stores aren't going to have even one. Not only do they not have it, they're going to look at you like you're crazy for asking for it. It's exactly what happened to me two days ago, my friends. That's Hashem saying, get your head on, my boy. You don't control any outcomes. All you control is showing up. All you control is making an effort, making a decision, waking up in the morning, getting dressed, praying, doing the mitzvahs, coming to the office, investing your time and energy in making an honest living. And if you do that, the rest is on me. That's just one additional message that I don't control anything. A very, very important message. And that is the same for everybody. Oftentimes, the big 30,000-foot explanation of almost every tribulation is you control nothing. When does that become a problem? It becomes a problem when people are so determined to control things that they don't accept what's happening to them. And they will fight it and they will allocate resources to it, time and money and sweat and tears to be able to undo a situation. And if it doesn't work out like it wasn't working out for me the other day, they get mad at everybody. They get mad at the salespeople. They get mad at the machine. They get mad at their employees. They get mad at their partners, they get mad at everybody because it's not working out for them. And they simply don't accept that it's not working out for them. That, my friends, is a foolish response to life. The right response is to stop immediately. The faster you stop and acknowledge that God is running the show, the happier you are and the happier everybody around you is. If I would have stopped immediately and said, wait a second, let me think about this. Don't get excited, don't get nervous, don't think about the money, don't think about production, don't think about the staff, don't think about anything. Just stop. Take a breath and think, the plant needs to be down right now. There's a message in here. Let me think. Go back to my office, take a breath, clear my mind, and then reapproach the situation five, ten, twenty minutes later. I assure you, after a small prayer to my creator and saying, Please help me, I would have found an answer. In 20 minutes, half an hour, I wouldn't have not left my office. But instead I did the opposite and I paid the price. We are all guilty of the same thing. Smart money recognizes this. Can you imagine just how efficient your life will be when you operate like this every day? That's what we should all be striving for. Let's get back to the book. If we've tried our best to understand God's message to us in these tribulations, but we still don't understand why we're undergoing these troubles that we have, then what do we do? We need to resort to basic amuna and remember that he does everything for a purpose. Not always do you see clearly, not always is there a flashing neon sign saying, hey, change this. This needs fixing, this needs improvement. That's why I'm sending you to tribulation. It's not always crystal clear. Oftentimes you're struggling to find the message, and oftentimes you can't. In that case, you go back to your basic level of Amuna. I know who's running the show. And now the book gives us a wonderful suggestion on words to use when you find yourself in that situation where you don't know. And he says the following Father, God, Hashem, however you want to refer to him, my troubles are certainly not happenstance or unjust. I know that they are perfectly just. I believe in you and I trust you with all my heart. But unfortunately, I don't understand what I did wrong to bring this upon myself. And whatever that this is, you could say, I don't understand why my machine had to break down. Or worse, I don't understand why I had to spin my wheels for three hours trying to find a solution when it was right under my nose. And I therefore don't know how to atone or what to atone for. Hashem, beloved Father in heaven, please help me understand why I'm suffering. Please forgive me and have mercy on me. Don't cast me away from you. Please shine your divine countenance on me and illuminate my aching soul. Help me to do your will and to correct what needs correcting so that I can live a gratifying life in this world and I won't have to suffer in the next world. Now you can use that or you can use your own. You can modify those words, but it needs to come from the heart. And the more it comes from the heart, my friends, the more it will find its destination. If despite our repeated personal prayers, our troubles don't go away, then we need to cast our brains aside. I've said this to you many times. Switch off your brain and rely exclusively on the upper level amuna that God is doing everything not only for the best, but for a specific purpose as well. Whether or not we understand what's going on, that's exactly what's happening. The acceptance, when we actually accept whether we understand it or not, when we actually accept the difficulty, the challenge with love, which I'm proud to say I did a couple of days ago, and with a subjugated heart, as opposed to somebody who's haughty and complaining and egotistical and thinks, no, no, no, no, I need to control this. That in and of itself invokes tremendous divine compassion. Oftentimes, as soon as we truly reconcile ourselves with our troubles, they disappear, they fade away because we've done the very thing that we're supposed to do. Now, that's a that's a hard ask. That's a really hard ask of somebody who doesn't understand the concept of tribulations and where it's coming from. First, you need to establish for yourself, through an interaction with your creator, through that relationship of give and take, ask and receive an atonement. When you're in that relationship of give and take and you see his hand clear as day, that builds you up. That every occurrence like that builds up your imuna and your relationship with your creator to the point where you have what's called bitachon. That was all of season one. Bitachon is trust, not faith, but absolute trust. Trust is earned through an amount of faith. So you have a certain amount of faith that God is running this world, He's intimately involved in your life, He's gonna do for you. Once you've established that enough times, now you have found trust, Bitachon. So it's the same thing. But you need that bitachon in order to switch off your brain. Otherwise, you're a robot and nobody wants a robot. So have enough of the experiences to establish for yourself that you are in a concrete relationship with your creator. So that when you come to the point where you simply don't understand the tribulation and how it connects back to something you've done, then you could say to God, listen, I don't know. I just don't know. I don't have the eyes to see it. I don't know why I wish I did. But I'm going to run with it anyways, and I'm going to accept it with absolute love because I know by this stage in my life that everything is perfectly and precisely crafted by you for me. And it's the same with Torah in general. A lot of people who don't know, haven't studied Torah, haven't learned, and don't recognize the divinity inside each and every page, the perfection of every letter of the Torah that indicated it could only come from a divine creator, and it's the only book on planet earth that anything of the sort can be said of. If you haven't done that homework, then it's hard for people to take a leap of faith. I get it. That's why you need the baby steps. The baby steps in life cement, confirm for us that he exists, that he's divine, that he's in this world, that he's on our shoulder, that he's intimately involved in our lives. And then when you have that, only after you've established that the Torah is true and that he is real, can you then switch off your brain and say, I've learned enough. I've experienced him enough in my life on a daily basis for five years, ten years, twenty years, whatever it is, that I can now comfortably and confidently switch off my brain and accept whatever is coming with absolute love, because that's exactly where it's coming from. We may not always have eyes to see it, but that doesn't mean it doesn't come with love. It's only with 100% love, the love not only of a physical father, but of a spiritual, unlimited, infinite father. Have an amazing day, my friends. Thank you for spending time with us on the Trust Factor Podcast. If you've heard something today that moved you, save this episode and share it with someone who might need to hear it. Be sure to subscribe so you don't miss upcoming conversations that challenge, empower, and uplift. And if you're on social media, connect with us. Leave your thoughts, drop a quote that resonated with you. Hashtag the TrustFactor Podcast. Until next time, keep growing in your trust and keep living with purpose. I'm Jesse Revivo, and this has been the Trust Factor Podcast. Thanks for listening.